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read this somewhere : Now you must understand,there aren't always happy endings,the person that was for you there yesterday,might not be there today. If things are meant to be let it be,keep in mind if someone says you can't accomplish something,prove them wrong :)

Believe in yourself!

1. Set goals. When you set goals, you have control.
2. Recognize when you achieve your goals, so that you will build your confidence.
3. 
   Consider reasons you fail. Everyone fails to achieve some goal, but if you learn from the failure, you will be more likely to succeed.
4. 
   Use realistic expectations to judge your success. Do not expect to run a four minute mile, until you have trained and conditioned for running.
5. 
   Listen to critics, but never let them convince you that you are less than you are. Some critics will tear you down to make themselves look bigger and better, while others will offer critical advice to help you make changes to improve yourself.
6. 
   Give your time and energy to others. When you do this, you will get positive feed back and get respect from others. These are building blocks for self respect, which is essential to believing in yourself.
7. 
   Don't give up on your dreams, goals or aspirations for you never know how right they truly are until you put them into action.
8. 
   Believe in yourself, you will do your best.

Stand for what you believe in.. even if you stand alone..

What you stand for makes who you are and who you have yet to become.

When you represent your business, put your best food forward.  Look like you want others to look up to you. See what they see.  Be who you want them to see.

Dress for your personal success.  Associate with those you admire to succeed with.

Make your personal goals higher standards.  Walk with your head up, proud of the knowledge of who you are.

Choose to stand alone, when the choices to stand with are not acceptable to your personal standards.

Honor the you that you can and want to become.

Set one goal that makes you do something that teaches you a forward needed skill.  Be your best and make a plan.

Plan to walk a little taller.  Dance a little longer.  Sing a little sweeter. Love with all that you are.

and never stop praying.

How to Be Strong

When faced with difficult circumstances, why do some people falter and spiral towards self-destruction while others survive and even thrive once the storm has passed? No one is immune to adversity, but some people seem to be better able to cope with and recover from even the most strenuous conditions. At the core of their strength is a mindset that allows them to carry on through thick and thin. Fortunately, this mindset is no secret. Emotional resiliency has been written about, studied and even measured, revealing some insights as to how anyone can be strong. Here are some ways to build your own inner strength.

STEPS

Remember that you are in control. Strength implies having power and being able to affect one's own life, while weakness implies being powerless and helpless. No matter what your circumstances, there are things you can control, and things you can't. The key is tofocus on the things you can control. Make a list of all the things that are troubling you, then make a list of all the things you can do to make each situation better. Accept the items on the first list (they are what they are) and focus your energy on the second list.

1. In studies of people with a high Adversity Quotient (AQ) it's observed that resilient people always find some aspect of any situation that they can control, and they also feel responsible for taking action to fix the situation, even if their hardship was caused by someone else. Those with a low AQ, however, ignore opportunities to take action and deflect accountability, presuming that because they didn't create the situation, they should not be the ones to remedy it.

Choose your attitude. Sometimes (hopefully rarely) we encounter situations in which we really are helpless to enact change, but you are still in control because no matter what, you can always control your attitude towards life. As Victor Frankl put it: "We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." Regardless of what is happening, be positive.

1. • If somebody is making your life miserable, don't let them crush your spirit. Continue to be proud and have hope and remember that these are the things that no one can take away from you. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."^[2]
   • Try not to let a crisis or hardship in one area of your life "spill over" into other areas of your life. If you're facing great difficulty with work, for instance, don't behave irritably towards your significant other when they've done nothing but try to help. Eliminate the "side effects" of your hardship by controlling your own attitude. Resilient people do not "catastrophize" every setback, nor do they let negative events follow a domino effect through their lives.
     1. Have faith in yourself. You've made it this far. You can make it through just one more day. And if you take it just one day at a time, or even one moment at a time, you can survive whatever you're going through. It won't be easy, and you're not invincible, so take baby steps. When you feel like you're about to fall apart, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Meditate or pray. Tell yourself "I can handle this." Once you've centered yourself, open your eyes and take one more step forward.     
     2. Pick your battles wisely. You're going through a lot right now; don't cling to ideals and concerns that will break you rather than make you. This is as good a time as ever to avoid sweating the small stuff. Whittle your life down to a few core values that mean the world to you, and don't worry about anything else. "Some people think it's holding on that makes one strong- sometimes it's letting go."
     3. Reach out. Spend time with friends and family who are supportive and positive. If no one is available, make new friends. And if there are no friends to be found, help others who are in greater need than you are. Sometimes when we feel like we can't better our own situations, we can find strength in bettering someone else's, and we can also gain perspective on our own lives. "I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet."6
     4. Be thankful. Life is tough, but if you look closely enough, you'll find and infinite number of things to be grateful for. Even if the things that made you happy in the past are gone, there's so much more to appreciate still. The joy you derive from the world around you is the fuel that'll push you through the hardest of times, so pay attention to what you have and enjoy it for what it's worth. Sure, you might not have that new shirt, or whatever it is you want, but at least you have this computer, with the internet, or you wouldn't be seeing this. You know how to read, you probably have a house, and the Internet you are using is obviously paid for. Some people can't read, have no computer, no home. Think about that.
     5. WARNINGS When times are tough, we're more vulnerable than ever, and it can be tempting to do things that we would normally never consider. You might feel desperate for an escape or validation, but such quick fixes will only make things worse. Don't turn to alcohol, drugs, or any other form of empty, temporary gratification. If you're going to escape, escape into the things that hold meaning for you, like music, reading, or art.

How to Stand Up for Something You Believe In

"If you don't stand up for what you believe in, who will?"

~Anonymous

Standing up for what you believe in is one of the most important skills you'll need in life. People in life will always try to knock you down, but as long as you get back up, you're showing them that you can stand for what you believe in.

Steps

1. 
   
   

    You can do it if you believe you can.
   Believe in Yourself. The first step to getting anyone to believe in you is believing in yourself.

• Do not let yourself think negatively. If you want to stand up for a good cause, you need to believe that you can make a difference. The ones who don't make differences are the ones who don't think they can.
• Know what you are capable of. Never have doubts in yourself. You are capable of anything as long as you believe you can do it.
• Don't listen to others put you down. The only reason why people say that you can't do something is because they don't think that they themselves could do it. Prove them wrong. Don't cave in to their insults, and stand up for what you believe in.

Make sure that you know what you believe in. Many people don't realize that they don't actually know what they believe in. Think it through-

 Is this really what you want?

1. Do you really think this way? You may actually lie to yourself just so that you believe you are doing it for the right reasons. Only you can determine if you really believe in something, not a trend.
2. 
   
   Follow through. Don't start a petition, and then never hand it in. In order for people to really believe you are serious, you need to show them that you are dedicated. Leave no loose ends. Plan out any presentations, respond to arguments, and don't waste people's time. Why would you get everyone worked up about a show if you don't even have it planned? Don't get in an in depth conversation with someone discussing your thoughts just to no longer believe in what you did a few weeks later. Remember, you need to finish what you started.
3. 
   
   Get help if needed. Some jobs are just too large to accomplish on your own. Inform friends and family about what you're doing, and tell them to tell others. Another way of doing this is starting a petition.

Tips

• Get help if needed.
• Writing a letter or starting a petition greatly improves your chances of people believing in you.
• Make sure that what you're doing is actually for a good cause.
• When your talking to a person don't raise your voice UNLESS you HAVE to

Warnings

• Don't get too excited. Sometimes, things may not go as planned.
• Make sure everything is planned out.
• Follow through with what you want, or you might as well be wasting everyone's time.

3 SIMPLE RULES

Three simple rules : 

1. If you do not go after what you want, you'll never have it.

 2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be a " no".

 3. If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place.

 Learn to take risks and see where your brave heart can take you.

Before you say “I can’t”

Make sure you’ve already tried.

Before you let doubts stop you,

Confront them with facts.

Before reasons convince you it’s impossible

Pursue the one reason that makes it possible.

Before failure enters your mind

Hide success in your heart.

Before fear holds you back,

Go forward with faith.

Before problems interfere with your plans,

Use them to accomplish your goals.

Before you hold back because others are better,

Show others what a winner you are.

Before you settle for less,

Hold onto what is most important.

Before you believe there is no way,

Keep going and you’ll make one.

Before you give up,

Be at peace inside.

Before you dismiss your dreams,

Wait until they’ve come true.

Before you go looking for happiness,

Make your own where you are…..

 Copyright  © 1996 By Nancye Sims

COURAGE

Courage is admitting that you're afraid and facing that fear directly. It's being strong enough to ask for help and humble enough to accept it.

Courage is standing up for what you believe in without worrying about the opinions of others. It's following your own heart, living your own life, and settling for nothing less than the best for yourself.

Courage is daring to take a first step, a big leap, or a different path. It's attempting to do something that no one has done before and all others thought impossible.

Courage is keeping heart in the face of disappointment and looking at defeat not as an end but as a new beginning. It's believing that things will ultimately get better even as they get worse.

Courage is being responsible for your own actions and admitting your own mistakes without placing blame on others. It's relying not on others for your success, but on your own skills and efforts.

Courage is refusing to quit even when you're intimidated by impossibility. It's choosing a goal, sticking with it, and finding solutions to the problems.

Courage is thinking big, aiming high, and shooting far. It's taking a dream and doing anything, risking everything, and stopping at nothing to it make it a reality.

~ Caroline Kent ~

THIS IS IT! :))))

Take full responsibility for your life.

Stop blaming others.

See yourself as the cause of what happens to you.

Do things you like to do.

Don't stay in a job you don't like.

Participate in life at the highest level you can.

Stop terrorising yourself with your thoughts.

Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.

Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly.

Wear clothes you feel good in, get a massage etc.

Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs.

Stop being critical of yourself and others.

Take care of your body.

Give it exercise and good food.

Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes self-esteem.

Associate with others with high esteem.

Acknowledge yourself frequently.

Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments.

Avoid comparing yourself with others.

Remember that it's who we are, not what we do, that's important

Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically.

Schedule time by yourself.

Frequently take deep breaths.

Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully.

Eat first class frequently.

Don't look at the right side of the menu.

Stop trying to change others.

Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be.

Look into a mirror regularly

and say "I love you, I really love you".

Stop feeling guilty and saying "I'm sorry".

See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself.

Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love

in place of old thoughts of inadequacy.

Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life.

Stop taking yourself so seriously.

Accept compliments from others without embarrassment.

Don't invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you.

Be kind to your mind.

Don't hate yourself for having negative thoughts.

Gently change your thoughts.

Keep your awareness and your thoughts focussed in present time

instead of living in the past or future.

Acknowledge others frequently.

Tell them what you like and appreciate in them.

Invest money in yourself.

Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents.

Make a list of 10 things

you love doing and do them frequently.

Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved.

Praise yourself. :)